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Naseerah's avatar

I'm (only???) 25 - so the older side of gen z - but this spoke to my soul. The cliché that everyone is on their own journey has never been more glaring

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Jade's avatar

Love this - time is not linear at all

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Mark Meier's avatar

Welcome to the club. I am old, or as most see it, I am. I had a friend tell me I reminded her of her grandfather. Ouch. I still feel young. Yet, when I look at myself, I think old, fat, and ugly. I completely understood what you were writing. Most won't, but that doesn't matter. It spoke to me. I have found your work refreshing and relevant. So, if you feel irrelevant, you aren't. Keep your work strong, and I'll keep reading. Don't fall for other people's expectations or rules. It is your life. I admire what you do and are very brave to write it.

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Jasmine's avatar

Thank you for the compliment Mark really appreciate it! 😊I wish you didn’t think of yourself as old fat and ugly! How about; you carry more wisdom and life experience, you enjoy life, and you’re unique? It’s a nicer mantra to repeat to yourself when you look in the mirror 💛 take care!

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Mark Meier's avatar

Will do. Thank you

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Lisette's avatar

You really captured my feelings about being an aging millennial so well! I constantly think “at least I actively try to keep up with what’s new and I’m not an uncool old millennial” but then I actually engage with gen z and I realise… I am an uncool old millennial 🙃 which is, as you write, both unsettling and peaceful at the same time. But thank god I’m not the only one feeling like this ❤️

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Noelia's avatar

Interesting I began to feel this way of losing touch with what is "young" as a gen z. I'm 19 but feel like I'm in my late 20's. I feel like I have no responsibility to look after but also feel 26 as im always mentally exhausted. Cheers to aging gracefully 😊

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Jasmine's avatar

Hi Noelia! Ohh that is so interesting to read that you experience feeling more connected to an older generation. Would you like to elaborate on how you noticed that you started losing touch with what is “young”? It sucks to always feel mentally exhausted 😞 i know what that feels like! Take care 🩷 and thank you for sharing your thoughts

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Kayla Valerie's avatar

I’m 31, and resonated a lot with what you wrote. I’ve noticed a lot of women our age writing about similar feelings and sentiments on Substack lately. Perhaps us millennials are aging differently, and the reason it’s scary is because we don’t have many women to reference for the road less travelled (being child free etc). Lovely read! I also don’t feel a day over 12 🤸🏻‍♀️💗

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Jasmine's avatar

Hii Kayla! Thank you so much 💕 and i think you’re onto something that it’s a bit unknown to grow old being child free. It might be that our generation has to carve that path for the next ones, to make it a little easier to make the decision for themselves instead of turning to the “default” getting married-buy house-have kids. 🤷‍♀️ cheers to being 12 forever! 🧚🏼‍♀️

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Dario's avatar

26 year old here: what the fuck is ‘cyber-fairy-grunge’ ….

Does this mean I’m already middle-aged?

Lovely read btw.

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Jasmine's avatar

😂 you have been middle aged since birth dario. Thank you 🩷

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fuckgirl's avatar

„I don’t feel a day over 12, 15, 18, 21, 25, 29 i am still all those years. it’s hard to conceptualize, but i am still a child and i am an adult.“

This. Thanks for putting being 30, 31, 32 into words. By 32 I made my decision on staying childfree and that also felt very adulty, in a different way then having kids of course but it’s also … progress I feel

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Jasmine's avatar

🤍 glad it resonated with you! And yes i know what you mean on making that decision and how that feels like a very adult decision- which it is! I am still hiding from the actual decision making but that already tells me a lot.

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