Curiosity and uncertainty sure go hand-in-hand! Good insight there. Also, something I started reflecting on, recently, is the fact that when women get off birth control with a serious life partner, there is a high chance their personality would change, making them a whole different person than the party girl of the beginning of the relationship. Just something else to give us anxiety. No big deal.
Thank you Barbs! I tried birth control from a young age and all of them were causing significant issues for me so I quit them in adolescence. I can imagine how much of an impact it can have on your personality after quitting them! Yeah, it’s great to be a woman sometimes :’)
this is such a beautiful sentiment and one i subscribe to myself. i love to grow and change and give the space for those around me to as well, so i was very much thrown for a loop when i met my now in-laws who apparently think that change is bad because it means you were “wrong” at one time. that’s a whole different story to unpack but that situation made me realize that while i love to change, others don’t and everyone is on their own journey. my husband and i came to same conclusion that you did too: the level of curiosity you have will likely play a big part in your leanings on growth and change.
weirdly enough, i published something on substack a few weeks ago about how one story i told myself about myself for 3+ decades was actually wrong and i was happy to change it. it is so freeing to do this level of self-examination because i find that as i know myself better, i can be more confident in everything i’m doing and saying.
your new relationship seems so positive so i am wishing you the best both in it and in the one you have with yourself.
Hi Lauren! Ohh that sounds somewhat familiar. I think older generations seem to be very reluctant to admit to “being wrong” and i am sure that extends to sticking with what they know and who they are. It’s a certain closed mindedness that can for sure be a struggle for the people around them (and probably for themselves as well?)
I appreciate your kind words! And thank you for taking the time to share your experience 🤗
Curiosity and uncertainty sure go hand-in-hand! Good insight there. Also, something I started reflecting on, recently, is the fact that when women get off birth control with a serious life partner, there is a high chance their personality would change, making them a whole different person than the party girl of the beginning of the relationship. Just something else to give us anxiety. No big deal.
Thank you Barbs! I tried birth control from a young age and all of them were causing significant issues for me so I quit them in adolescence. I can imagine how much of an impact it can have on your personality after quitting them! Yeah, it’s great to be a woman sometimes :’)
Boxes keep you save, curiosity let’s you live.
this is such a beautiful sentiment and one i subscribe to myself. i love to grow and change and give the space for those around me to as well, so i was very much thrown for a loop when i met my now in-laws who apparently think that change is bad because it means you were “wrong” at one time. that’s a whole different story to unpack but that situation made me realize that while i love to change, others don’t and everyone is on their own journey. my husband and i came to same conclusion that you did too: the level of curiosity you have will likely play a big part in your leanings on growth and change.
weirdly enough, i published something on substack a few weeks ago about how one story i told myself about myself for 3+ decades was actually wrong and i was happy to change it. it is so freeing to do this level of self-examination because i find that as i know myself better, i can be more confident in everything i’m doing and saying.
your new relationship seems so positive so i am wishing you the best both in it and in the one you have with yourself.
Hi Lauren! Ohh that sounds somewhat familiar. I think older generations seem to be very reluctant to admit to “being wrong” and i am sure that extends to sticking with what they know and who they are. It’s a certain closed mindedness that can for sure be a struggle for the people around them (and probably for themselves as well?)
I appreciate your kind words! And thank you for taking the time to share your experience 🤗